Pride is often associated with love. Common phrases include “Love is Love” or “Love makes us human”. Pride may be about love for some people, but it is not the foundation of the celebration for all LGBTQIA+ people. Some people do not feel, understand, or connect with love – any form of it. They may identify as “Loveless”, which originated in the aromantic community as a way of reclaiming something often seen as a negative trait.
For Pride Month, we wanted to shine a light on those aspec people who identify as Loveless, as this month is for them as well.
Thank you to all who volunteered their time and shared their experiences.
Introductions
August (he/him) – loveless aroallo
Carlos – I identify as a gay aroace man.
惡魔 – Loveless aroallo
Eugénie – I’m aro ace
Jourei – I am just plain asexual and slightly apothiromantic, I use any pronouns that you feel would fit me best.
Mai – I identify as frayplatonic loveless aroace
Noah – I am aromantic-asexual
River – I’m aromantic asexual.
Riko (they/them) – aro ace
Yellow – My aspec identities are loveless aro and arogender
Questions
How do you define being loveless?
August: My lovelessness mainly comes from a personal rejection of love as it exists in western culture, though I also find myself feeling disconnected from love or doubting I feel it altogether.
Carlos: For me loveless means not relating to the word love and to the feeling that people associate with it. I don’t experience the same kind of deep emotional bonds to others as I understand some or most people do.
惡魔: How do you define love? I can’t “grok” what love even is or means. It’s like a theoretical, vague, inapplicable, foreign concept to me. I don’t think I feel or experience it in any way, and I’m not comfortable applying the word “love” to my feelings or experiences.
Eugénie – For me, being loveless is just that I don’t feel romantic attraction, I can like people but never love and I don’t really understand how romantic love feels for the allos.
Jourei: The concept of love is quite foreign to me. I have no idea how to react when someone says “I love you” to me.
Mai: I define loveless as rejecting the word ‘love’ as a description for other feelings and emotions. Personally, I don’t shy away from saying “I love this piece of fiction” or casual “I love you” to my friends, although there are loveless people who do remove the word completely from their vocabulary. But, I am uncomfortable when people try to use my words as a gotcha by saying, “See? You do feel love, after all!” When people say the word ‘love’, I feel like they are referring to an intense emotion regarding a particular person or thing, which I personally don’t experience. To me, the people closest to me are… just there. When I’m away from them, I don’t miss them nor do I think of them. I don’t feel a desire to see them again. This is often mistaken as me actively not wanting to see them, which is false. I have no problem seeing them again, and when I do, I’m usually quite happy. It’s just there’s no active desire or pull to meet them at all.
Mary Kate: Being loveless, to me, is more of a confirmation of the fact that there isn’t a special someone out there waiting for me. I have no desire to ever be in a romantic relationship, and having the identity of being “loveless” reminds me that I am normal and valid in how I feel.
River: At first it was difficult for me, I didn’t know I was aro and I didn’t know this world. Since I was a teenager I realized that I had no rats of romantic or physical attraction towards anyone. I wasn’t interested in having someone next to me, having relationships, feeling something, etc. When I decide to be with a person is for the whole thing between us, not for feelings or attraction (which I don’t even feel). My first relationships were a trauma: my first boyfriend loved me with all his being and I lied, I loved that back even without really feeling it just to feel right; after some time lying, it hurted me too much and I felt out of place so I left him without explanation; the second was a toxic relationship that I couldn’t get out of, where he attacked me because I couldn’t “do something as small as loving him” and “couldn’t even satisfy him sexually”. I’ll spare you the story, after a year of hell I managed to escape from him.
I thought the third was the right one and it was the same as the first relationship, but in the meantime I discovered the aroace community and started to understand everything, deciding to tell him about it. He called me “crazy and confused who had her mind clouded by what she had read online about lgbt”. The relationship got worse and I left him. Now I’m fine and surrounded by people who accept me for who I am and love me
Riko: For me, loveless means I don’t feel love at all. It’s more than being aromantic, where you don’t feel romantic attraction, which is a form of love. Loveless is not feeling any form of love. Not love for family or friends, nor love for objects like art pieces or cars.
Yellow: To be loveless is to reclaim society’s idea that being without love is “bad”, it’s finding confidence in the knowledge that there is no one thing that is necessary for someone to be happy in life.
How does being loveless intersect with being aspec for you?
August: My lovelessness is integral to my aspec identity. My lovelessness impacts the way I view my aromanticism; it makes my aromanticism feel more radical than it already is and brings me a stronger sense of pride.
Carlos: I had some deep insecurities about not having “fallen in love” and also feeling like I didn’t “love” those around me. After discovering the aroace community, and finding a way to understand human nature that included me, I felt liberated from the burden and guilt of not experiencing the feelings that I once felt I should be.
Even though I hadn’t heard about the loveless identity when I first found the aroace community, being liberated from amatonormativity allowed me to have an understanding that also liberated me from “everyone experiences love”-normativity.
惡魔: It’s core to the way I experience aromanticism, yet it’s actually a thing that sets me apart from the community because I often fit the stereotypes people are most eager to dispel and distance themselves from. In an amatonormative world where love is automatically assumed to be romantic if not otherwise specified, it’s pretty easy (if oversimplified, and not to say accepted) to say, oh, I don’t love, I don’t do relationships, I don’t catch feelings. But in the aro community, that also encompasses how I don’t have strong feelings for my friends or family, I don’t experience platonic or alterous attractions, I don’t want to partner, I don’t hold love in any esteem, love doesn’t carry any meaning to me, and so on.
Eugénie – Being aspec and loveless is kinda hard to explain to people sometimes but there are people that understand easily.
Jourei: It goes hand in hand with my aromanticity.
Mai: For me, both are the lack of strong attractions or strong feelings about someone or something. Both describe something that differentiates me from other people, in the context of the affection I feel for others in my vicinity. Both have made me feel alienated from other people, since I cannot reciprocate others’ love and attraction in any way.
Mary Kate: I owe a massive amount of the credit for discovering and coming out as aroace to Alice Oseman’s novel Loveless, and it is also a big reason why I do choose to identify as loveless. Reading that novel was the first time I had ever seen my own thoughts and feelings written out in a way that I hadn’t yet known how to express to even myself. Being loveless to me intersects with being aromantic because I don’t experience love in the general sense as everyone else does. I am loveless, but my love isn’t less.
Noah: Realizing I am loveless helped me understand my sexual/romantic identity so much more, and it helped me realize that my identity is very much valid and deserves respect and understanding.
River: Nothing in particular about it. I just realized that I was both and after a while I accepted it.
Riko: I thinks it’s all connected for me, I’m missing the whole ability to feel love and attraction for others. I think attraction is one step towards love, and missing that step means I never get to that end part. I’m not attracted to anyone because I can’t feel love, and I don’t feel love because I’m not attracted to anyone, or anything thing.
Yellow: My aromanticism is a central part of my queer identity and my life as a whole and personally lovelessness is inseparable from it as (for me) a pushback against the idea that aros need to make up for being themselves.
How is your experience in aspec communities impacted by being loveless?
August: My lovelessness shapes my aspec communities. A majority of the aspec communities I’m in are a lot more open to lovelessness and I feel welcome to discuss my loveless lens of love or amatonormativity.
惡魔: While the aro community overall is pretty experienced in discussing and confronting amatonormativity as it relates to romantic love, love in general is still painted as the pinnacle of inherent goodness & something universally important and sacred. To me, that follows the same paradigm. Tacking on nonromantic forms of love doesn’t fix the way love is put on such a pedestal. It’s harmful to equate “romantic love” with “virtuous and wholesome.” I wish people wouldn’t stop the analysis there.
I think there’s such a fear of backlash; stereotypes; “who hurt you” or “thou dost protest too much, methinks” accusations of really just being a jealous, lonely single; and just plain vitriol that most people intentionally try to avoid appearing “bitter toward love” as much as possible. Most people’s kneejerk reaction is to be very defensive about love.
I feel like I have to tiptoe around everything I say about love, just like I do with romance and relationships and monogamy as a romance repulsed relationship anarchist. Fuck love. You know, now and then I’d like to just be able to blow off steam about love and the extolling of it without giving a thousand disclaimers and nuances. We need to excise all respectability politics from our community. Of course love is very important to some folks (both personally and politically), and there are competing needs within the community (and in different local/regional contexts). But our needs deserve consideration too.
Eugénie: Maybe aspect and arospec communities could be more together, we could support each other more.
Jourei: Not really impacted, I just will probably never want a proper queerplatonic relationship.
Mai: Sometimes I feel like an outsider in the community. A lot of people say that they can still love in contexts other than romantic, while I personally… can’t. I don’t mind other people using the word ‘love’ to describe themselves, but it does make me feel like there’s an invisible bridge between me and other aspecs.
Mary Kate: Maybe more in the sense of the “aromantic people can still be in relationships” way? I definitely have people in my life that I love, but I don’t see myself ever having any desire to form a relationship beyond platonic ones.
Noah: I have found a lot of support in online communities for loveless aspecs, and online aro/ace communities helped me realize my identity. I don’t have much support or understanding in the “real world,” as many in my country don’t even realize asexuality/aromanticism is an “option.
Riko: Sometimes it feels like I’m left out. I often see people saying “I’m asexual but I still feel love” and I just can’t relate to that. I get anxious about saying I’m loveless because others don’t take kindly to it. That makes it hard to make connections with other aro ace people. It’s like we are speaking separate languages, they talk about these feelings that I don’t have, and then they can’t understand why I’m not joining in.
I have to do extra work to understand what they’re saying. When I talk I have to either pretend to relate or edit the conversation to avoid them knowing that I don’t relate, because people tend not to like it when I mention being loveless. There’s a big stigma around not feeling love, like it somehow makes you broken or evil, and it’s hard to navigate that. I’ve lost friends because they found out I’m loveless and couldn’t understand.
River: Sometimes they don’t understand and other times they support me and help me
Yellow: I mostly hang out in loveless(-adjacent) spaces, so it’s a big surprise whenever I see someone express self-doubt about their ability to love in the community.
How is your experience with alloromantic allosexuals impacted by being loveless?
August: I feel a lot more disconnected from alloallos because of my lovelessness. My lovelessness feels too radical or complicated, and I usually end up feeling a lot more isolated or misunderstood.
Carlos: Before understanding my aspec identities, I felt guilty for not being able to correspond to the strong emotional bonds of family and friends, I felt weird saying “I love you” back to them. Now that I understand myself, I can navigate these issues more easily.
惡魔: Think of the stereotypes about aromantics that are common and widely considered to be negative or derogatory. I probably fit most if not all of them and am perceived those ways irrespective of my aromanticism.
Now think of the stereotypes and media tropes of people who are sexual and are not loving in any way. Think of the way villains are often coded as loveless because love is considered the ultimate manifestation of good.
I’ve been called some of those things by my own family, who purport to love me unconditionally. You might be tempted to wave that off with a “well, that’s not really unconditional love.” But that falls into the trap of thinking love has all sorts of meaning about high virtue and ethics.
Eugénie: Some alloromantic/sexual don’t understand a word that I say and it may be hard to feel understood, most of people don’t actually know that I’m aroace and sometimes I have to deal with “so you don’t like/love me ?🥺” and it’s exhausting.
Jourei: With this I would put more weight on being aroace, than loveless. There are plenty of life situations allos get to experience, that I have little interest in.
Mai: I basically feel like the stereotypical cold, emotionless person that the community fights hard to refute. As allos are less knowledgeable about aspec stuff compared to aspec people, I kinda feel like I need to exaggerate the things I do when together with other people, so as not to give people the right to assume that all aspec people are passive when it comes to relationships. When it comes to the people whom I’m not out to, the pressure isn’t there. But I do feel another struggle is how I really can’t connect with them when it comes to any kinds of relationships, be it romantic, sexual, platonic, or familial. Even friendships feel different than the norm, since I basically never seek my friends out and my friendships kinda feel one sided.
Mary Kate: I feel very infantilized a lot of the time. I am very often hit with the “you’ll find your one eventually, everyone does” hot take. It can be highly frustrating to explain the loveless outlook on life and the future without feeling as though I sound like a child. When friends talk about their significant others, wanting to date, or discussion related to sex, I often find myself feeling detached. It’s not so much of a “feeling left out” experience, but more of an “I will never feel the way they do, and I will never fully be able to explain to them how I feel”.
Noah: At first, alloromantic and allosexual people made me even more confused about my identity, and made me think that I couldn’t be both aromantic and asexual, therefore loveless. However, I found that many people on social media (and Instagram, TikTok, YouTube), were actually affirming that aro/ace people can exist, even if they themselves were not.
River: It’s not easy. Both straight people and the ones in the LGBT community, or worse in the aroace one, discriminate us. I’ve been told that I need to find the right one, that I need a psychologist because isn’t normal, that I’m just confused and/or or crazy, when I say I’m aroace I also had answers like “but do you also have 8gb of ram?” or similar things just as uncomfortable.
They tell me that there’s no point in having a relationship without sex and love as they’re the only things that matter, that it’s not possible to be in a relationship without any attraction. They know nothing about us, about our life and our experiences, yet they take the luxury of being able to speak for us and about us.
How could aspec communities better support you?
August: Aspec communities could better support loveless individuals by understanding other aspects of lovelessness. There are a lot of ways to be loveless other than not feeling love and understanding those other ways can help support the entire loveless community.
Carlos: A bit more visibility of the loveless identity, as well as more information about it.
惡魔: Stop prioritizing palatability to alloros! It’s very alienating to hear defensive stuff like “aros [can] still love [our friends/family] platonically!” It’s “we’re just like you, we still love!” respectability politics 2 electric boogaloo. I even sometimes hear it followed by “we’re not psychopaths!” which, first of all, is so incredibly ableist and careless. People need to stop throwing that label around whenever someone doesn’t emotionally relate to others in the way they expect them to. The entire concept is literally based in criminal profiling and exists to pathologize and stigmatize people who deviate from prescribed societal norms, and it is classist, racist, and amatonormative to the core.
Secondly, don’t pathologize loveless people! As a community of people who are regularly pathologized for not having romantic love, we really should know better. And third, stop throwing folks with personality disorders under the bus! We are all human and deserving of respect, full stop. Do better.
Jourei: I personally don’t require much support, but if I had to choose one way, I would like people to be vocal about this invisible identity, not only lovelessness.
Mai: By not forcing the label love on us. I think a lot of us prefer to use more specific terms when describing positive feelings, like fondness, respect, admiration, et cetera. However, this is not a pass for others to use it as a gotcha and saying that we “do feel love, after all”.
Mary Kate: MORE REPRESENTATION/DISCUSSION
River: What they already do is okay, they help me understand how I feel and understand better our little community. I’m greatful
Riko: Accepting that loveless people exist, and that we’re not damaged or bad, that we can still care without feeling love. Maybe tailoring some content to include loveless aros.
What do you wish aspec people knew about you or other loveless aspecs?
August: I wish aspecs knew lovelessness is not meant to be something that overshadows or devalues the love others feel or prioritize. The aspec community has space for both lovelessness and prioritization of love; we are not enemies of one another.
惡魔: Love isn’t universal! You’d think we as a community would know that since we know romantic love isn’t universal, but loveless aros regularly get casually excluded.
I also want everyone to really internalize that we do not have to “justify” not having romantic love in any way. You don’t have to “make up for it” by emphasizing love for friends or family, entering a QPR that alloros perceive as similar to a committed romantic relationship, playing matchmaker or wingman for others’ relationships, loving the idea of love vicariously, wanting love, or conforming to the lonely unhappy single stereotype. None of those things have moral values assigned. Experiencing or not experiencing any of these things doesn’t make you any more or less of a person deserving to be respected and taken seriously, It also doesn’t make you any more or less aro and shouldn’t make you any more or less included in the community. I feel like people who do like or experience those things get their aromanticism questioned or invalidated, and people who don’t get ostracized or maligned. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Stop gatekeeping everyone!
Jourei: Loveless is also a bit of an unknown term among aromantics.
Mai: There are aspec people who consider our identity as “proving the stereotypes correct”, and I would like to say that personally, I consider loveless aspecs as a diverse community, too. Some loveless define it as simply “rejecting the word ‘love’ as a descriptor”, which usually means they still experience other emotions in whatever intensity, but refuse to label it ‘love’. Some people actually don’t experience such strong emotions that you would usually associate with the word ‘love’, like fondness, affection, protectiveness, and the like. Plus, identifying as loveless is not proving the allos right. It’s not us giving up to their insults, and it’s definitely not letting them rob the word ‘love’ from us by letting them redefine ‘love’ as strictly ‘romantic’. Personally, I consider identifying as loveless as an act of defiance, one that declares to the world that actually, love isn’t what makes us human. Not all of us experience love, and that’s okay! And when I say this, I don’t only mean romantic love, but all types of love that humans are supposed to feel. For the record, if someone prefers not to identify as human, then I think it’s their right and I respect that. However, if the person hasn’t strictly said they prefer not to be seen as not human, then implying that the person is inhuman can feel invalidating.
Noah: We are able to form strong relationships, but we do not value the idea of love, amd instead we value other things such as trust.
River: That it’s ok to not feel romantic attraction. Out there, there are people that’ll accept you for everything you are (or not) and that’ll make you feel normal. Don’t listen to people that discriminate or hate you, they will never understand.
Riko: That we can still care about people and things. Not feeling love doesn’t mean we hate everyone or are apathetic. That bring loveless doesn’t take away from other aro people. We’re not giving you a bad name or anything, we’re just another type of aro.
What do you wish allo people knew about you or other loveless aspecs?
August: I wish allos knew that loveless isn’t the default for aspecs and that we’re not monsters. Not all aromantics are loveless, and those that are, are not evil for it. These generalizations are extremely harmful to everyone in the community.
Carlos: Like most things with humans, experiencing love is a spectrum; people are different and experience things differently.
惡魔: Love isn’t a moral justification for anything! When you cause harm or hurt to others, you can’t just point to “love” to rationalize or excuse your actions. It’s not a mitigating factor or a categorically wholesome motivation. Sometimes it’s even part of the problem or used to defend abuse(rs). We as a society need to stop accepting “I love you and want what’s best for you” as an excuse for harmful behavior, whether it’s from a parent or a partner or anyone else. And on the other side of that coin, not loving isn’t a reflection on our morals or how we treat other people. Love does not have an inherent moral value; it can be good or bad or neutral.
Eugénie: – I want the allo people to know that we aren’t emotionless, we feel things but we are just not attracted by people in that way.Also, don’t force us to have sex or others things like that, it’s really isn’t helpful.
Jourei: The term ‘loveless’ sounds quite harsh in the ears of people who are unfamiliar with aspec to begin with.
Mai: I’ve seen an allo saying that all aspec people feel platonic love deeply. It kinda rubs me the wrong way, because it feels like to be able to respect us, they have to make up for our ‘deficit’ by emphasizing our ‘strength’ in another type of love. You know, the same way people justify an ace person’s worth by saying, “It’s okay because they can still feel romantic love!” and end up alienating aro people? So, what I want to say is: please stop trying to make up for our perceived deficit in a way that meets your standard. You don’t have to understand how our labels work to respect our existence.
Mary Kate: I am incredibly normal and valid and CORRECT in how I feel and how I experience emotions. I know how I feel. No amount of “you’ll find someone someday, everyone does” will not change how I view and navigate my life.
Noah: We are not robots! We just don’t experience life and connections with others like you do. Just because we don’t value love doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to love us (platonically of familiarly)
River: We’re normal as you. Hate is stupid and unreasoned ‘cause we won’t hurt you with our being. That’s all.
Riko: Yes we do exist. No we’re not sociopaths that are out to hurt you. We can still have positive feelings towards you and others without feeling love. You can still have a good relationship with a loveless aro. We can and often do make good parents. Love isn’t necessary for healthy relationships.
Maybe stop making love the be all and end all of life. Relationships aren’t bad if there’s no love. Caring about someone can be just as important as loving them.
Yellow: That we’re not sad and we don’t need to be fixed. The whole point is that we’ve realized that we don’t need love, and people need to respect that instead of acting like they know us better than ourselves.
How would you like societal narratives around love to be changed? What are some ways our communities could be transformative?
惡魔: I would like to see love completely deprioritised, to a point where it doesn’t matter, in favor of a community ethic of care and mutual aid for our comrades. Kind of like how people need to grasp that empathy, sympathy, compassion, and decency are different things. You don’t need to feel certain feelings in order to treat others well, be kind, or offer support. Some people might view such actions as being a form of love too, but some don’t and some don’t want it labelled it that way!
I understand the opposite strategic approach of expanding how we define love, applying it abundantly to many forms and actions small to big. But because love is considered so unassailably sacrosanct and indisputably good, it gets used to excuse or mitigate things that should be inexcusable, from domestic and child abuse; spousal and intimate partner violence, including sexual violence; so-called “crimes of passion”; and marriage trafficking to controlling behaviour, romantic harassment, stalking, and so on. The way love is treated as inherently moral and good fails to recognise such harms. In fact, it’s used to disguise the reality that current and former romantic partners, spouses, and family members are the biggest source of violence against women. This is misdirection by the ruling class that wants us to focus on “street crime” (to support the policing of the most marginalised peoples) instead of what happens behind closed doors. Let’s not expand the domain of that framework.
Eugénie: I think that society must stop to see love as a need, ’cause it’s definitely not how it works and maybe give more visibility to aro and ace people, yeah we aren’t very much but we are here and we exist.
Jourei: Could we burn amatonormativity please? There are a wide variety of types of love, not only romantic love! Even alloromantic people would benefit greatly if people would not be so rock solid on having to have a SO. I could rant about this all day.
Mai: I would like it if society stop equating love with morality. Love is not the reason someone is good, because I believe that what makes someone good is their behaviour. If you help a stranger, surely it isn’t motivated by love, right? On the other hand, loving someone doesn’t immediately mean you will never do them harm, right? You still need to learn the proper way on how to love someone and still respect them as a person. I believe that feeling genuine love doesn’t immediately equal treating the person with respect, since there are a lot of cases where someone shows their love in an unhealthy way. Society likes to say that this proves the person’s love is fake, but I believe there are external factors that can definitely influence whether the way you treat someone you love will be healthy for all people involved (including the lover). So, I think it would be great if the community, and everyone in general, can start not immediately equating any act of goodwill as love.
Mary Kate: The social norm does not need to include sex/romance. Not everyone experiences/desires relationships like that, and having that type of relationship as the standard can cause significant mental damage to people that are figuring out their identities. Feeling “normal” is something that I struggled a lot with when I was first discovering that I am loveless, and that isn’t an experience that I would wish on literally anyone. Representation, discussion, and inclusion are extremely important.
Noah: Not everyone experiences love, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Love is not the only thing that matters in relationships
River: I would like to see more aroace representations to help people better understanding this community like in books, movies, anime and tv series.
Riko: It would be nice to see some loveless parents in the media, showing that we can be just as good as allo parents.
I’d also like to explore the positive aspects of being loveless, like how that means we don’t feel jealousy the same and dont cheat on partners the same. That being loveless has benefits. Just including us and having loveless representation would be a great start, especially in a positive and realistic way.
How do you show pride?
August: In online spaces, I’m quite loud about my loveless identity. I talk about my loveless experiences often and also try and share loveless positivity as much as possible. I also own a few buttons and stickers for in person spaces.
Carlos: I’m not at a point where I feel comfortable recognizing my relationship with love to others. But, I do show pride by now feeling confident, happy and comfortable with myself.
惡魔: I stick the fuck up for my loveless comrades as well as anyone else who gets pathologised for “not having feelings.” I’ll have you know I have three feelings: angry, horny, and tired. Guess which one I’m feeling right now!
Eugénie – I show pride by making bracelets with the colours of the flags and that’s it, I’m not out for many people
Jourei: Loudly! I show my colors visibly, it is easy to do so as people aren’t aware what they stand for, unlike the rainbow flag. Those who know, know.
Mai: I don’t really show pride outwardly, but rather, by being proud of my identity. I have embraced that being loveless doesn’t equal being immoral. Thus, when people attack the concept of lovelessness, I no longer feel that it erodes my self-esteem. I have arrived at the stage where I can confidently say to myself that no, they’re wrong, and go on with my day. It might make me feel shitty for a day or two, but it won’t affect me for too long. That, in my mind, is how I show pride over my identity. It’s the fruit of all the works I have done to accept myself as I am, without adhering to what is considered normal. It’s a proof that my years long journey of accepting myself is starting to show my desired result.
Mary Kate: I am LOUD and annoying about mostly everything about me, but especially about being a loveless aroace. I am always more than happy to answer any and all questions. Education is very important to me, and I am passionate about making sure that anyone who is questioning their identity can come across my page and feel safe enough to talk out how they are feeling with me.
Noah: I host a GSA at my school and aim to educate other individuals in my community on LGBTQ+ issues and happenings.
River: The same answer of the pride in the aspec answers – – I always try to share the posts I find around the subject, especially if they concern me directly. Sometimes I make Instagram stories or videos for Tiktok myself. This year I will also physically go to the pride of my city and hope to find my flag online to buy it
Riko: Just by being myself. If I had loveless pride merch then I’d use that to show my pride. Do we even have a pride flag? 🤔
Yellow: I show pride by being myself and not letting society’s expectations affect how I live my life.